Alright, this community has sort of died so I'm going to post in it.
This past month, I've had a new job working with three mentally disabled people:
- Lonnie, a 56 year old man
- Cissy, a 40 year old woman
- Jonas, a 24 year old man
Each of these people have opened my eyes.
Lonnie has had a good life; but it's sad how few resources were out there when he was younger for people like him. I can't remember what form of mental retardation he has; but I'm thinking it's moderate/severe. Which isn't bad at all. Most people now with this form of mental retardation since birth can learn to learn basic tasks and can partially live on their own. But that's because of schools, and back when Lonnie was young he didn't have this as an option; when you had a kid with mental retardation you kept them home and they learned basic household chores, which he does know. He can do most everything on his own, he just needs someone around to cook and stuff.
Now on to Cissy. She's been blind since birth, has profound mental retardation, and walks with a limp. Her family gave her up to an institution when she was only 18 months old. How could someone do this to their child?! It's outrageous. Maybe this was standard and expected in their time, but with a family to love her she could have thrived. Not that she isn't doing fine and all, but it's just sad thinking of the people her parents must have been to do this to her.
Jonas' case is the one that saddens me the most....he has fetal alcohol syndrome. We've all heard the term, but until you've seen it, live, up close and in person, you have no idea. It's terrible. I never want to drink again, even when I'm not pregnant. He's got a plethora of deficits. Such as deafness, poor eyesight, one of his legs is about 1/2 a foot shorter than the other, and he has profound mental retardation. The worst part, I think, is that he has a brother just like him. How could you do this to your children? I'm thinking his mom might have done harder drugs too, but no one knows. No one really knows anything of the parents. It just angers me that people can be so goddamn self centered and not only ruin their lives but their children's too. Jonas is happy, but just think of what he could have been had his mother not have made these choices: a doctor, a lawyer, a basketball player, anything. It's absolutely horrible what people can do to themselves and their children.
Working with these three has also opened my eyes about mentally disabled people in general. I was always sort-of on the eugenics side of things; because I thought that these people were suffering. Now I know that eugenics is a bad thing, and these people don't suffer unless we let them suffer by not caring for them. Jonas, Cissy, and Lonnie are very happy people. I wish 'normal' people could be as happy as these three. They're just so content, so....comfortable. It's sweet.
Anyway....that's enough from me. Let's get some more rants going on in here, I know you guys have something to say....